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When learning a new language our self confidence can take a battering. This can mean we become reluctant to join or initiate a conversation with other people, which is a shame, because why on earth are we learning a language, if it's not to communicate?

If you think your lack of self confidence is holding you back, try some of these tips:-

4 Unusual Self Confidence Tips

by Peter Murphy

Here are some self confidence tips which can be developed into unconscious characteristics of your personality. The most effective use of these self confidence tips is done through repetition and reinforcement.

The use of the self confidence tips described here must be done on a daily basis and with a conscious effort on your part to retrain the way your mind works.

Again, self confidence is a learned skill, and all learned skills must be improved upon regularly.


1. Develop the habit of learning from mistakes.

The most successful people in any industry have learned to let go. Certainly they still find themselves in a position where they may not have done the right thing.

But rather than beat themselves up about it, they evaluate where they have gone wrong and resolve to avoid that mistake in the future.

In other words they view mistakes as lessons, and enhance their self confidence by believing that experience allows them to avoid amateur mistakes.

2. Talk to yourself.

This is perhaps the easiest route to self confidence. Our minds absorb the things we feed them on a daily basis whether those things are positive or negative.

Develop a list of your own character traits that need improvement. Then write a positive statement about yourself and that character trait.

Example: I am highly organized. Repeat this list of positive statements to yourself out loud whenever you have the opportunity. The best times are in the morning when you first wake up and in the evening before you go to sleep.

Make sure you repeat them out loud. Simply hearing these things said about yourself out loud will result in greater self confidence.

3. Be prepared.

In whatever area you are attempting to improve on, nothing beats the proper preparation. Successful salesman will mentally prepare for a presentation by constantly repeating the presentation until they have the major points memorized.

They will also record themselves on tape giving the presentation in order to hear how it sounds. More time is spent investigating the client and his industry to evaluate where a produst might be useful.

Finally the product is looked at from a customers point of view so that objections and questions can be handled before they arise.

4. Use Positive Visualization.

This is a powerful tool to use in developing self confidence. The best athletes create a powerful mental image of themselves accomplishing their goal.

The emotional impact of creating an image in your mind replicates the feeling of success and creates the same physical effect on your body as the actual accomplishment of your goal.

Before attempting something, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and picture yourself as being in the situation you desire to happen.

If you can see it happening in your mind you can make it a reality. Self confidence grows with visualization.

To sum things up, self confidence is a habit, and like any habit becomes something you do unconsciously. The self confidence tips described here are useful if you make them habits and they become second nature to you.

Once the pattern is established, you will have no problems with continuing to build your self confidence.

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About the Author: Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at:

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